Ntsika Says: Don't get it twisted

You know you get a friend who introduces you to another "friend" and then that "friend" will end up getting a little too comfortable... They end up forgetting that you are NOT THEIR FRIEND and that you merely were introduced by a mutual friend and because you didn't want to be rude you decide to accommodate them and what the heck you become a happy jolly band... But, back to the issue of them getting a little too comfortable... They end up forgetting how you became "friends" and start elevating themselves to the level of the mutual friend. They forget that you didn't know who they were before your friend dragged them along. The danger in this is that they end up thinking they know you and start crossing the boundaries a little and when you let it slide too often the "friend" will not understand when you eventually lash out to say enough is enough. My take on this is you make it clear from the word go to your mutual friend that you're friends with them and that they shouldn't expect the new friend to be your friend. The mutual friend should not force the development of the friendship between the new  "friend" It is YOUR choice to keep them or say cheers and if they don't like it... TOUGH!

I'm talking from experience; when you've tolerated a little too much from the "friend" they think they can do as they please. They think they can say what they want to say to you because they are COMFORTABLE. So "Friends" never get it twisted. Know your place and don't assume that you're friends with someone because your mutual friend introduced you. If you're unsure, ask... I know I'd be more than willing to set the record straight so we don't get it twisted. I always say, If you've never been to my house while I was in my PJS, never seen me cry and never prayed with me- then my dear, we are not friends. DON'T GET IT TWISTED