Ignorance is NOT a bliss

Well hello there, it’s been a minute, grateful that you’ve clicked the button to read the blog that was created merely to express opinion with the hope of adding significant insight and value to each and every reader. I’m well aware that nothing happens as “mistake” your loyalty to the blog continues to humble me. It’s been a busy couple of weeks in the South African headlines and of course I’m going to have my valued opinion, it is my right and I am well aware that with this right there is great responsibility to what I say and not how YOU interpret it. Let’s talk about…. Mhmmmmm…. Let’s see….. The death of Senzo Meyiwa? Let’s!. Firstly, Let me make it known that I am not a sports fan. I’d probably doze off in a heated game of soccer and if you had to ask me the dynamics I’d probably run to the loo and never return. But sports fan or not, the tragic passing of our National football captain resonated with my soul in ways I cannot begin to explain. We South African’s have been taught to have “UBUNTU” which is why I got extremely pissed off to say the least in which his death was disrespected and ridiculed in many of the social networks. Let me begin by saying, I am bitterly disgusted to all the South Africans who have made misinformed and ignorant remarks regarding the matter ESPECIALLY in a situation such as this, where death has occurred. How dare you be so insensitive to the memory of a dead person whether famous or not. It is utter disrespect and I do not apologize for my opinion in that matter. South Africans honestly need to know their place. These rights were not created to cause such chaos, crudeness and disrespect. 

We make a huge mistake to think because someone appears on our TV screens, we somewhat own them. Absolute nonsense! You are allowed to have a mere opinion but that should not justify ignorant behaviour in which you disrespect another human being. Both the late Senzo and Kelly Khumalo are well known’s and because of this,South Africans assumed they had a right to the mater, which of course is wrong. I personally do not know Kelly Khumalo on a personal level. I think she is very talented; I enjoy many of her songs although I would never attend her concerts with my money unless if someone wanted to be nice and tag me along to her concert with that person paying for my refreshments, transport AND ticket. In a nutshell, I appreciate her work but I wouldn’t spend my money on it. I cannot judge her either, GOD alone is the ONLY righteous judge. BUT, the reality is, Kelly was not married to the late Senzo Meyiwe infact she was wrong to have had an affair with him because he was a married man. That is a fact. Indeed, she has a child with him BUT that too cannot justify anything because that on it’s own was disrespect ethically and culturally because Senzo Meyiwa was a married man. I do not know dynamics of their relationship but I do know whatever the case may be with their relationship, it was wrong because it was disrespect to the wife of the late Meyiwa and to their covenant that they made to God. So I do not understand why the country caught feelings that Kelly was not allowed by the family to attend the funeral. In African culture, it is shear disrespect to have a “mistress” at a funeral and culturally the family would be disloyal to their daughter in-law and her family if they allowed such to happen. It is just how things are in African culture. Infact, if they would’ve allowed Kelly to attend the funeral it would mean they support the disrespect she and the deceased were committing and that would result in them being insensitive in-laws.

Also might I add, Senzo’s wife was humiliated enough when she had to see pictures of her late husband and Kelly in tabloids whilethey were still married. The two were not hiding their relationship; just for a minute take time and put yourself in the shoes of that woman. The betrayal, the shame and embarrassment she may have felt. What then boggles me is how South African women are pushing for women empowerment when they themselves bring each other down. Almost 80% of the statuses I saw on social networks were by women who made remarks on how Kelly should have been allowed to attend the funeral and how the wife was the one who killed Meyiwa. What on earth? I honestly have no words for such shallow minded people. As a woman you should know the pain of having being betrayed by a man seeing that you all sing the same tune that “men are dogs” but in this regard you’re brave enough to make contradicting and bold statements, SHAME ON YOU! I honestly thought the sisters would embrace the pain of the deceased’s wife and support her but instead, I was utterly disappointed to establish that her very haters would be women. Kelly herself admitted in an interview with Robert Marawa on a sport show dressed in lavish gold garments paying tribute to her late lover that “When a woman’s husband dies the first suspect to who killed him would be his wife”. So coincidental that the song she performed was in line to that and was released before the incident but hey, THAT’S NONE OF MY BUSINESS. I also am not impressed by these pictures flooding social networks imitating Meyiwa’s father as her peeks out of the window of the hearse to greet fans as a sign of gratitude to their loyalty towards his late son, suddenly people find a gap to ridicule a man who is mourning his son, this man is old enough to be some of your grandfathers just by the way. Where’s the respect there? I am incredibly disappointed in how the passing of Senzo Meyiwa was disrespected. 

On the issue of controversial, I do know whether to call him a current or former radio DJ, Gareth Cliff. Look, Cliff had EVERY reason to question the funding of the funeral. He is a citizen and a tax payer, I cannot deem that as racist, although I am very weary of racism. Just because I’m a born free does not make me ignorant. My problem lay in how he began comparing the deceased to Messi and how he was quoted in saying “….and Meyiwa is no Messi”. Now excuse us Mr Cliff? Where’s the chill though?? On the very same day of the burial of a dead man one can say such?. It was in my opinion very insensitive, arrogant and on the border line racist. We as Africans believe that a dignified send-off is honorary to the deceased, excuse us if the way in which we go all out to bury our loved ones startle you. And to those who are ignorant in saying; “why must everything be about race?” errrr Child of God, do not be so ignorant. When you fill out a form many atimes it will ask you for your RACE. Race is a very significant issue anywhere in the world. Let us not fool ourselves into thinking it is not an issue. South Africans who still ask why it is a constant issue should take some time to going to Robben Island for example or watching documentaries of our past and our struggle, ESPECIALLY the black ones who are ignorant in saying “It’s in the past. Leave it there” oh really? So because it never affected you it should be merely shunned? Shame. Just last week a White BORN FREE called Blacks “Kaffirs” and you tell me it’s in the past, let’s leave it there. See a therapist dear, because ignorance is not a bliss.